What am I Missing?

Discover the Four Blind Spots that are Holding You Back, and How to Overcome them.

About Me

About What am I Missing?

Have you ever had a conversation with a friend or relative that’s hit a nerve and you can’t figure out why it bothered you so much? Over the course of her 15-year career, Emma has discovered that the root of this pain and confusion often lies in a blind spot: a gap in our awareness that distorts how we perceive ourselves and our loved ones which, left unchallenged, can leave us feeling unloved, insecure or overwhelmed.

In What am I Missing? Emma reveals the four blind spot profiles along with client case studies to demonstrate how they show up in daily life, and exercises to help us see past them:

  • Are you THE GLADIATOR, determined but missing trust?
  • THE BRIDGE, easy-going but missing authenticity?
  • THE HUSTLER, charming but missing self-worth?
  • Or THE ROCK, resilient but missing boundaries?

Like sitting with your own therapist, What am I Missing? will help you understand yourself and your loved ones better than ever before, and gives you the keys to a happier life.”

Kate Moyle, Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist and Author of The Science Of Sex

'This book gives both a smart, digestible and practical guide to knowing yourself better and I think we can all identify elements of ourselves in the case studies which highlights how so much of what we struggle with is entirely human.’

Julia Samuel, psychotherapist and author of Grief Works

'Beautifully observed insightful and validating, this book will help you understand yourself and your relationships like never before'

Elizabeth Day

'This book changed my life. An invaluable guide to uncovering the things we don't know about ourselves and to reclaiming our power by addressing them. A fantastic, enlightening read.'

Anna Mathur, author of Raising a Happier Mother

'Emma skillfully stands beside us as we look together at the dark and dusty corners of ourselves, allowing the life-changing light of self-awareness to flood in. Gently powerful, helpful and hopeful'

Please Yourself.

How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live.

About Me

About Please Yourself

Please Yourself is an essential, inspirational, wise and forgiving book that will liberate the people pleaser inside us all.

We all know how it feels to want people to like us, to approve of us, to accept us. It’s part of what makes us human. And there’s nothing wrong with wanting to support other people and help them satisfy their needs.

The problem comes when we give up our own needs along the way.

Because when we give to make others like us or approve of us, to shore up our own sense of self-worth, to feel needed or to avoid painful emotions, then we give to get. And rarely do we get what we really need.

This book will help you get better at being disliked, instead of staying quiet. It will help you recover instead of fearing failure. It will teach you acceptance instead of avoidance and show you how to grow instead of staying small.

Above all it will help you care better for others, without taking on their problems, through caring better for yourself.

Elizabeth Day, Author of How to Fail

'Utterly brilliant. Emma Reed Turrell is a wonderful writer, a compassionate guide and the therapist we all long for. Every page of Please Yourself contains a truth bomb; every sentence a golden nugget of wisdom. If you're a people-pleaser (and you probably are) this book will change your life. My only regret is that it didn't exist earlier as it would have saved me – and everyone else – a whole lot of bother’

Emma Gannon, Author of Olive

‘As a recovering people-pleaser who often falls back into its tempting trap, I absolutely loved this book. Informative, entertaining and empowering!''

Julia Samuel, Author of This Too Shall Pass

"A helpful, reassuring book that will give you insight into discovering your no is even more valuable than your yes. And in discovering it you'll find you like yourself more and others will too…"

Sam Baker, Author of The Shift

"Realistic, non-judgemental and genuinely helpful: your one way ticket to growing a backbone. It took me decades to learn why I people pleased and how to stop. Thanks to Emma Reed Turrell, you don’t need to wait that long"

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